I really like the Dogs of War server. They have well balanced missions and there is usually someone on the server. I'm fairly certain they have more info in the multiplayer section on the forums as well as an external website.
/\ This, if all they made was current aircraft I probably wouldn't play this simulation. If you don't like a module nobody is forcing you to buy/play it.
Pretty sure pressing Control and C switches between mouse look on and off, then you should be able to click just fine. Just remember to hit Control C after you are done if you want mouse look back on.