Realism is chaos or a bore fest
Even in reality, war is chaos. Not organised perfectionism and elitism.
In the 2nd "Gulf War", the first strikes on Iraq, if you read about it, were a mess. Some planes couldn't refuel, some returned for technical problems, Mig-29s and 21s jumped them on Egress, etc.,.
I think bombs on target in the war = 40% or something like this. A10Cs and Harriers did a lot of missions in CAS role...so you need a ground battle raging with JTAC etc.,. F14s flew around in circles on patrol for 12 hours with no action.
Helis did medivac etc risking being shot down, Apache flew missions (which we don't have).
So even "realism" can't be that real if you want a real war scenario in DCS atm. It's just mindless condemning by people who think they are somehow better than everyone else.
Realism = help your buddies, compete against yourself, the plan works until the enemy show up, pilots having different levels of experience and skill, Murphy's Law, etc, etc.,.
From a military flight instructor, "We don't expect pilots to be perfect, but know what perfect is."