I'm not sure what you are exactly referring to. However, to me the issue is mostly present on negative stalls/spins. However if a negative snapp roll (flick roll) is allowed to develop into a spin we are back to this issue. From some quick trial it will usually happens after 2 or more turns of a snapp roll. It will of course depend on your starting conditions and your technique (I start at about 200kph, full negative elevator, full rudder and full ailerons in the direction of the turn [since we are inverted, if I quick the left rudder, I will roll to the right, requiring right aileron; if i was upside I'd use left aileron])
Well your explanation is a tad simplistic. The nose should drop because airplanes are normally designed to be able to recover from a stall. It would be too hazardous otherwise. To do so, designers are required to play extensively with chord, profile, area, span, incidence, and position of the wing and elevator plus a precise position of the center of gravity.
It is simplistic to say that if I hold a hammer on any specific point, it will necessarily fall on the side of the head.
Depending on how I hold it (the air interacts with the airplane) the results could be vastly different.
To make sure an airplane flies well upside up is difficult. A lot of airplanes have some quirks and do things that are out of the expectations of anyone. This is truer when pushing the flight envelope flying aerobatics.
Also, the ailerons and the elevators do have authority. In fact the ailerons are often used to turn a normal spin into a flat spin (along with some power). And are also on some airplanes required to exit a spin.
shows it quite nicely. Opposite aileron makes the spin more flat, inside aileron can actually be enough to recover from a spin, and drops the nose.
The elevator is also far from useless. It can influence a lot of different things. (Such as rudder masking). It usually has some authority and is in most case necessary to exit the spin. (on the mirage III there are specific yellow hash marks on the stick and side console to give the correct stick position for a spin recovery)