DON'T GIVE UP!
Here's some stuff that has really helped
Quick and Dirty Startup (if u don't want to cheat and use the hotkey, this is the quickest way i've found to start her up + get moving)
The next thing i'd reccomend, is learning to use the Autopilot etc, learn to fly to your waypoints, use Trim correctly, set AP altitude and so on, so that you can get where you are going. The LAST thing you should focus on, once ur happy with all of that is trying to target (something i'm still learning to do...it's hard, real hard. Not used to having to VISUALLY spot targets..usually they have me before i have them)
Also as has already been stated, get on Teamspeak/Ventrillo etc etc, and ask some of the more experienced guys. I think it took me something like a month and a half playing on and off to actually be able to shoot a missile at something, kill it, and not get shot myself (ok so i died 10 seconds after..BUT I KILLED SOMETHING!)
And i don't even have trackIR, just an X52...
Keep at it m8, even if u take a break, it's worth it when you come back :)