It is off that's my problem, no matter what I change the settings to in the Gameplay tab it doesn't change the settings when I try to play the game.
My current settings are Tool Tips checked, Labels set to none, F10 View set to All, F10 Map User Marks checked, Icons NATO, English, Imperial, G-Effects Realistic, and Use these settings for any missions checked. But if I try to play anything but a tutorial I get the Game mode settings.