Wow, thank you all for the replies, it really is a great forum, didn't expect this much answer!
I know the theory on carrier landings with the wires and the hook, the reason I was confused was because on the shore landing training, the instructor says 'remember, you never flare an F14 on landing'. It would seem logical to me to flare on shore based landing, because it's less stress on the aircraft - even if it's designed for it, the instructor didn't say that 'you don't have to flare', he said 'you NEVER flare'. I was thinking it may have a high possibility of tail strike or something? I am just looking for a technical reasoning like a child ("tell me why I can't").
On speed AOA at the moment of touchdown didn't seem that essential to me, because there are no wires to catch, so in theory you could get away with flying proper on speed AOA during the approach, then just before touchdown you start to bleed off speed with flaring and as with "normal" airplanes, and the moment the aircraft stalls is precisely the moment of the touchdown, and you don't have to lose that much speed while the wheels are on the ground, less brake usage. So that's why I was asking if there is a technical reason why you shouldn't.
The training and practicing of a perishing skill makes sense, but still the phrasing the instructor used made me thinking.
Thank you everyone for the replies!
