I think I found out whats going on. There are two versions of my DCS.exe, the 64bit and 32bit. My nvidia control panel is mistaking the 32bit and saying use the dedicated car for that, but NOT the 64bit. So its just a problem with my nvidia control panel. to Will above if you have nvidia you can open the control panel and there will be a desktop tab at the top of the program, click that and press "display GPU activity" and it will show you what current programs will be using your dedicated card.