I don't think there's a debate going on in regards to the flight behavior of the F-4E. For me at least, it's the speed of the trimming itself. I have no problem making small trim adjustments as required. As long as the adjustments don't give me 1000-2000 fpm excursions. With my hardware, WinWing Orion2/F-16EX joystick, I can't "flick" the hat quick enough to get the "tiny inputs" you're talking about. And this is what I think the discussion here is about. If I could get it down to trimming with "tiny inputs" via my hardware I'd be happy to trim the jet all day long.
As an aside, I have an original B8 grip in my collection and the trim hat on it has very aggressive centering. I doubt you could do a "tiny input" of less than 100ms on the B8 hat. My hardware has much lighter centering and I'd more than likely halve the time per click. Unless a real B8 grip was used to program the current trim timing I'd say there's some valid comments/concerns from users here.
Cheers, John