I dont know how to do all that,You can enable easy flight but disable easy avionics and it will do away with all the arcade look.
But doing this you will then be using the "real mode" control settings instead of the "game mode" controls and flying from the cockpit but its easier to fly.
I am currently doing it this was until I learn to use the gear,ABRis,radio,DL and what not.
I know its not exactly what your wanting but just thought Id try and help some.