My experience was against F-14A+ and D’s, and I flew F/A-18 A/B/C/D’s. And a good variety of lot# and software loads. Both standard and EPE engines. Usual configuration was centerline fuel tank, tacts pod, captive AIM-9, so really not a combat load for either platform (and honestly once you start hanging stuff from any jet your mileage is really gonna start to vary...).
Whenever you start to compare jets you need to realize that each individual airframe of the same type is going to handle differently - operating at the edge of these envelopes the differences can really become apparent- we’d always seem to have a bird or too that was “bent” lol...
Anecdotally the F/A-18 had better operational thrust to weight, bled a whole lot less in turns, was fully controllable at a crazy low airspeed - when a Tomcat was departing, and had more reliable radar for in close ops - VertAcq was your friend... The Tomcat was faster (top end) and a much more sophisticated and powerful radar (long range contact with AIM-54 employment was awesome to behold) and had way way more gas than us - and in the real world that’s important. The Tomcat was also much larger than the Hornet, so (despite the “bubble” canopy) it was easier to pick up visually. Lose sight, lose fight.
Hope that helps!