How is that that your computer cant handle VR. Do you have Steam pixel density set up and ingame also turned on?
I have Ryzen 3900@4.2, 32gb ram 3200mhz, Rtx 2070, Oculus Rift S. Ingame (my is standalone version of DCS) pixel density is on 1 and in Oculus tray tool set aslo to 1 if i stream. If not i can set up to 1.5 and runs like charm single player or multiplayer with 20+ players. Only shutter is when some scripts load.