It is all done, port forwarding (http://canyouseeme.org/ confirms that), firewall settings, static IP etc etc. I've been running the server for a long time, and others could use it. Also, I doubt the other machine "sees" it over LAN. The actual list of servers comes from the ED server, and it is only when you join a server you connect directly to a a certain machine. I'm guessing - what if the list filters out servers with a long PING's which might be a case, since I'm in Canada, and the other person is in Finland.