Dismantle the SAMS first. Make full use of radio call-in's. I repeat, make FULL use of radio call in's, doing everything yourself was never the way this was supposed to work. Be patient and time your attacks to coordinate with your radio call-in's. If you fly like a goose, you'll get plucked.
Edit: Things should also become a bit more manageable when the new versions are fully ready to go, but they aren't quite there yet.