Have you watched this:
You definitely do not want to use ATC at anytime in the landing pattern. Practice flying "on-speed", this is a balancing act that specifically requires manual and continuous throttle adjustments particularly in turns and descending in the groove. No shame in extending the downwind leg to fine tune your line up to the deck. I have probably done this over 1500 times and still don't get it perfect every pass.
From that discussion thread linked above you might get the impression of the need to gun the throttle "at the ramp". I recommend flying the "ball" to the deck "on-speed", then immediately go full after burner. Going AB to early will result in a bolter or missed wire, most of the time. Some others may disagree.
I do not think the AI LSO is perfect by any stretch but be your own LSO. Read the PDF on recovery operations and understand the grading criteria, then watch replays of your traps and analyze what you are doing wrong from the LSO station.