I believe the problem that you are having is related to the collective, not so much to the pitch and roll axes. It seems to me that your controls are inputting too much collective, too fast, thus creating the 'wild horse' scenario you get yourself into. The Apache needs a very light touch on the collective, you start (obvioulsy) at 0% torque and slowly, very slowly, bring it up to 60%. I do it in steps, because the torque spikes up and down, so I let it go to 30%, then settles down, then 40%, settles down, then 50... until you get at 60%. At around 60% for most situations of height, temperature and loadout, the Apache will get light on wheels. Then you correct with pedals and cyclic, until you start to hover.
Mine collective was crazy too, so I changed it to straight line and I go very slowly during takeoffs, landings and hovers. Only time I "Tom Cruise" it, is when flying at speed and feel the helicopter falling, but that's rare. It is usually very light, very slow commands.
Regarding the pacth I felt it easier to hover, George more responsive and easier to cruise around. However, I'm having this strange pitch attitude, nose down attitude when after taking off, nosing down to pick up speed. It does a more pronounced nose down attitude, very much so that I had to change pitch saturation to 60% in my control.
Anyone else having a similar problem?