I agree. Some VR users seem to think that a title is only truly VR if they can control it with their VR controllers. This is wrongheadedness. When it comes to hardcore sim fans, all VR is is a graphics package option. DCS is aimed at the hardcore not the arcade crowd. Do hardcorse flight sim fans go over to arcade titles and demand they be made more hardcore? No they don't.
The OP should accept DCS for what it is or look elsewhere, imo.