Dennis_k Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Married for a year now and have a son (almost 1) I cant remember the arguments over games i played and still play. It all started out with Eve online. Thats not a game, its a life... I tried to explain the game to here. The politics involved, the thrill of hunting some one and killing him. The game did'nt allow to logoff during combat or missions. So, when you hunt someone for a hour and you got him, that is not a good time to talk to me about all kinds of stuff. She only saw a little spaceship, controlled through the mouse. Then came FS2004 / FSX. Loved to fly online with IVAO. Made it to captain (took the exam). Tried to explain that it was fun. (sitting for 4 to 6 hours behind the desk watching the autopilot fly) Then came my son, so i dropped that all, cant explain him that i'm flying online, on finals with a 744 behind me. Now, i play BS and Warhammer Online, but dropping warhammer. Se she's me sitting behind my computer, and only looks and smiles. She knows the game can be paused (if the keybord works ;) ). And its just a helicopter. Marriage is fun.... sometimes. Think the best manner is to explain that this is your hobby, this is wat you like to do. Explain that you rather do this that hang out in the bar every friday and saterday night, getting drunk. Tell her that this is what you do for fun and relaxation, like she does in a soap t.v. show. And explain that, sometimes you get a litle frustrated because you get killed. And, dont forget her! Give her some special time. Do fun stuff (movies, dinner) In this way, you keep the cosmic balance A ok.
wickedpenguin Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 big note though, if you can find a girlfriend/wife who flies flight sims, or plays video games, I think it might reduce risk of divorce.... Funny enough, my wife's actually a gamer. We play games all the time, from Mario Kart on the Wii to Fable 2 and Castle Crashers on the Xbox. She's a fiend in Super Puzzle Fighter (PS1/XBLA). She amassed the single highest score I've ever seen in Crazy Taxi 2 ($144,000). She doesn't play a ton of games, but she's amazing at the ones she does. Her big problem with me is online games. A few years back, I was involved in an online Red Orchestra: Ostfront 41-45 tournament (super realistic WWII FPS). Several times a week, my teammates on the Russian side and I would get together to practice for an hour or two. Then on Saturdays, we'd have the actual campaign battles, 2 maps rotating for 8 hours. At first, I was just a Private, so I could hop in and out at my leisure. To make a long story short, after many months of play, I wound up as General of the whole Russian side. So... I had to stay... for all 8 hours... every Saturday... for an 8 week campaign. It got old for her real fast, and rightfully so. I also wasn't very enthusiastic about being general, since it was basically dumped on me. I ended up just quitting the tournament outright after a while. But, because of that experience 4 or 5 years ago, now whenever I start playing online - whether it's COD:World at War or a flight sim - she gets concerned. I'm very mindful now of the time I spend online, yabbering away with friends and foes thousands of miles away. [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC]
viper169th Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 (edited) Hi Guys, The best way to avoid this is very simple when her favorite shows are on slip away to the computer :music_whistling: and proceed to have fun. I've been doing this for years it works like a charm I love the season finally :megalol: Sincerely, Viper169th Edited May 19, 2009 by viper169th
joey45 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Never forget that you have a life offline. The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. "Me, the 13th Duke of Wybourne, here on the ED forums at 3 'o' clock in the morning, with my reputation. Are they mad.." https://ko-fi.com/joey45
Sharkster64 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Some words of advice. Originally posted by TangoRomeo. [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Call Sign: Warhammer
wickedpenguin Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Some words of advice. Originally posted by TangoRomeo. Eject you - withOUT blowing off the rotor blades first. :helpsmilie: [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC]
Pilotasso Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 According to my experience my SIMing time is pretty much limited with a female companion. My last one would get me stuck on the phone every 20 minutes after arriving at home, wich barely gave me time for a single sortie. With women in presence is just impossible. I crave for my own lonely time then. .
leroy1964 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Great Story First post. Just bought the sim a week ago. I'm a real-life private pilot and long time player of flight sims - IL-2, MSFS 4-X, LO:MAC - and I love getting into the nitty-gritty of operating aircraft. DCS:BS has been awesome, as it's hard to get nittier or grittier than this sim. :) So I've been teaching myself the workings of the KA-50. I've got the Shkval system nailed and I can fly the aircraft fairly well (landings aside... oy), so I decide to try out an actual campaign mission. I spool up Campaign #1. Its first mission is the one where you take off, turn left, and basically wind up on the front lines within a couple KM. I'm plinking T-55s, engaging ZSU Shilkas, watching the enemy SU-25s bomb my guys. Great show. I move in cautiously, work my way around to flank some of the enemy. Then the helo starts oscillating along the vertical axis. I try to correct, first gently, then not so gently. I'm losing rudder authority. I've got auto-hover on and this thing is spinning like a damn top. WTF? Then my wingman calls in, "SAM launch, 4 'oclock." I disengage AH, try to regain control. The thing is still spinning. Boom! Down I go. Take a breath, get the "You're a disservice to the motherland" speech, and give it another go. I'm engaging from a distance, lighting up tanks with my Vkhirs. The rest of the enemy are hidden behind AAA batteries. I need to try to take those out... again. Move in for the kill. Pop off a Shilka. Readjust to engage another target. Then the oscillation starts. Again. "$*%&!!!" I'm trying to wrestle control of my helo from its own grasp. The world is spinning, and I'm drifting closer to the enemy lines. Must. Grab. CONTROL. "SAM launch, 2 o'clock!" "$*%&!!!" BOOM! Fiery bits of my helo tumble from the sky. "$*%&!!!!!!!" Right then, my wife walks into the office. She's looking lovely, fresh out of the shower. As fiery bits of Kamov's finest spill across the ground - and my screen - she says, "Hi, sweetie, how're you doing?" My answer? A very angry, "WHAT?!?!" She stops in her tracks and gives me The Look . Oh boy. I get up, feeling awful. "Wait, sweetie, it's-" She walks out. Oh boy. Again. She storms back to the bedroom. From there we have an hour of silent treatment, petulant "But babies...", snappy "Just go back to what you were doings," and me trying to make nice. Add a few slammed doors for spice. All because I was severely annoyed at a (albeit difficult) game and she walked in on the exact moment of my failure. Try explaining your frustrations to a person unfamiliar with the sim. "But, baby, the auto-hover just wasn't working, and I couldn't get my helmet-mounted-sight to track, and my targeting TV system kept getting swung out of range. And there were missiles. And guns! And I kept trying to throw in more rudder to counteract the rotation, and... and....and I sound like an idiot don't I?" Sigh. I got over my annoyace nearly immediately. It is, after all, just a game. She took a little a longer. An hour after "the incident" we kissed and made up. Browsing these forums, I now discover that it's most likely I'm fighting my autopilot. That's a system I need to study quite a bit more, obviously. I'd believed that it merely trimmed you on your pitch axis, and I come to find it takes into account your heading as well. I've also mapped "Reset trimmer" to one of my HOTAS buttons. Still, I do think flying the KA-50 is akin to a marriage. It's great to be in one, pushing buttons without thinking leads to bad things, and just when you think you're in control of the situation, it's really all just an illusion. :doh: Yep mine happened in 1989-1990 with C64 and a game called "Pirates" as I only had one TV and had it plugged in to said machine and I was hooked, "come on love, I just need to sack Trinidad" :megalol: After just over 20 years playing PC based games, my wife and I now well over the arguments, but just as you say this is not a new issue, but I enjoyed your story, well done.:thumbup:
TheMoose Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Funny story :D :thumbup: Antec 900 gaming tower, PSU: Corsair 750W, Q6600, Asus P5K, 8Gig Mushkin, Nvidia eVGA 280 GTX Superclocked 1G DDR3, SSDNOW200 Kingston Drive, TrackIr 3000+Vector, Logitech Extreme 3D Pro joystick, Saitek rudder pedals pro, Sharp 42" inch LCD Aquo. OS: windows 7 64bit.
JaNk0 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I think every simmer can recognize himself with everybodies stories in this thread. Love it, keep em comin fellas! [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC]
vrv Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 This is why I got my girlfriend into DCS. She has a thing for Russian aviation and well she enjoys it. She even printed off two manuals and stuffed them into some big binders for us to read :D [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] EtherealN: I will promptly perform a sex change and offer my hand in marriage to whomever
Deigs Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 She plays WoW on the laptop while I play DCS. We don't talk much though. A whole weekend can go past which a slight dinner inquiry and a compliment. 'It's just till I get the hang of it, darling' [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] 161 Squadron Australia's DCS Community
CyBerkut Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 She plays WoW on the laptop while I play DCS. We don't talk much though. A whole weekend can go past which a slight dinner inquiry and a compliment. 'It's just till I get the hang of it, darling' :thumbup: Sounds like a "keeper", Deigs! ;) [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] There's no place like 127.0.0.1
PlainSight Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 (edited) I was just in my deep multiplayer session and my sister comes bugging me and, you know, i'm like "yeah, yeah, whatever, i'm trying to hit some tanks here". The kicker is, that's what mom told me later, she's pregnant(that makes me an uncle, yay) and she's getting married in US! I was like:shocking: second later :doh:, and i instantly thought of you guys. Good thing she's not my girlfriend, what would be the consequences of that, i can't imagine :lol:. Edited August 20, 2009 by PlainSight [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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