Yoda, try this, maybe it will help... set yourself up a mission against a flanker, or whatever, with one SARH missile. You will not be notching. ;)
Go head to head - once the bandit fires, put the bandit on your gimbals, -or- 3-9 line, whatever suits you situationally.
Push the nose down slightly and then back up until you see the missile's contrail (because on a long shot there will be no smoke).
Once you see the contrail, puth the nose down (so you make sure the missile is flying downwards) point a wing at the missile (put it on your horizontal plane in other words) then HAUL the stick straight back, and then into a roll on top of the missile. Timing is very crucial here.
You'll need some 450-500kts to do this successfuly.