Trop,
You might also consider what your goal will be while online. You can either make your goal to survive (which is a good goal, but kind of funny when you look at the environment you're flying in - it's a game, right), or you can go for the kills.
If your goal is to survive, then don't push a tactical situation that you have no skills to win. Reset/disengage and reengage at a time/place better suited for your skills and also that of your aircraft. This is a hard goal to stick with - your fangs are hanging and you're concentrating on that easy kill.... BAM! Hit by the guy you didn't know was there or the heater he fired. The natural urge will be to press a into a situation and bite off on something that may/might/perhaps be a trap. However... this goal will teach you when and where to engage and how to evade/escape and when your exit window is closed.
If your goal is to get max kills, then prepare to die regularly and often. Regardless whether it's a spammer's missiles, the sneaky bastard who knifes you in the back, or the missile you didn't see, you will die on a consistent basis. This is not only annoying but kind of hard on the ego initially. But, you'll learn how to increase your situational awareness and defend against missiles - because they're gonna be all over the place!
Personally, i agree with you - the missiles make this a pain in the ass. However, where we differ is in the respect we give the missiles in LOMAC. While you don't agree with me and others in this thread when we say the missiles suck and perform poorly - it's also the reason why many people continue to remain engaged in a poor tactical situation. The missiles are easily kinematically defeated and bite off on chaff too easily - IMO. This allows people who have lots of experience in LOMAC move from a BVR position to a WVR position, where the flankers and fulcrums have a decided advantage. Perhaps this is a combination of user error and missile modeling in LOMAC, but most people have very little respect for missiles because they're easily defeated. That's not to say that I don't regularly get shot down, boy that sure does happen! It's to say that if we all had greater respect for missiles, then perhaps the tactics used on the servers might mirror RL more closely.
What I'm saying is stick with it, learn what you can, and you too can be a back-talking holier-than-thou fanboi of our respective aircraft like the rest of us.:music_whistling: :smilewink: