Hi there, and Welcome to DCS
DCS Multiplayer is Epic and as you have found also has challenges, your best off joining a group and learning that way.
Not only will the MP experience be better but you can use them as a fountain of knowledge :)
Im the lead admin for a group called the Ravens, Check out our website. Our aim it to help new comers learn the MP part of DCS and make friends along the way.
Come say hi on our Facebook page or site and we will happily help you out
HAPPY FLYING :)