Cry baby wife's.. Beta testing.

[RIPTIDE]

My wife was complaining too. She then said that I looked stupid with those LEDS on my head. So I hit her with a shovel and buried her in the garden. She don't complain so much now.

[sorcer3r]

My wife was complaining too. She then said that I looked stupid with those LEDS on my head. So I hit her with a shovel and buried her in the garden. She don't complain so much now.

 

:bye_2:

 

so there you would take the first place... lifelong ;)

 

http://forums.eagle.ru/showthread.php?t=58878

[TulsA-10]

Looks like you started a guy's support group :D

 

1. Hi.. My name is fred.. i'ts been 10 minutes since my last a$$ chewing.

 

My wife was complaining too. She then said that I looked stupid with those LEDS on my head. So I hit her with a shovel and buried her in the garden. She don't complain so much now.

 

2. Can i borrow your shovel sir.

 

My wife say pickle when I'm cleared hot. The women is godsent.

 

In all seriousness, as with all women, they are attention goblins and have scary attention to detail. Like the blackhole, nothing escapes them. So, basically, you're foked. :D

 

 

3. I hope it stays that way for ya.. but beware.. there's a dna strand she has in there somewhere labled "Crazy.. Must hate men" and it will activate, grow, and spread without warning. :chair:

Edited August 10, 2011 by TulsA-10

[leafer]

lol Nah. she would get upset if i am on the computer for hours on end, too. She's the type that won't say anything which always gives me the shrivel, and more so than the scratching types.

 

Balance is key, though. My wife is cool because i do spend a lot of time with her and my girl. Though I sense a change is in the air what with the DCS: Fighter is coming and all. lol It'll suck when she brings home another man and ask if it would be ok to have sex on the couch while i sim.

[CyBerkut]

Balance is key, though. My wife is cool because i do spend a lot of time with her and my girl. Though I sense a change is in the air what with the DCS: Fighter is coming and all. lol It'll suck when she brings home another man and ask if it would be ok to have sex on the couch while i sim.

 

Well, couches make lousy sim seats, so you shouldn't need to be using the couch at that time... So where's the problem, exactly? :D

[TulsA-10]

I'd say yes to bringin a chap home only if you could get a replica aces II ejection seat from flim out of the deal.. Anything to keep you off her RWR screen..lol you guys are hilarious.

 

I swear all i hear anymore out of her is a series of tones and missile launch warnings.. I looked at her the other night just to screw with her and said.. Mudspike 12 O"Clock.. She gave me the stupidest look and i just laughed.. I had to push it..lol

Edited August 10, 2011 by TulsA-10

[Pilotasso]

TulsA-10, maybe its not your SIMing, perhaps your wife's subconscious is telling you something different.

 

When they act like that demonizing your hobbies perhaps they're missing your attention. Your wife might see your attention focused on your PC when you have precious little time in a week. You need to break the routine. Take her out, do massage (oh boy they love this) do a trip on a cruise (leave the kids with aunties) take a ride with her on top of the washing machine...errr you know what I mean. :rolleyes:

 

Juts keep doing this once a while (dont give her signs its going to be just one time) and she wont nagg as much.

 

oh and encourage her to take care of her body as well going to the gymnasium, spa etc, shell be busy and that cant hurt, might even help in many ways. :D But her mind might be open or not to this depending on how fixed her habits are.

 

Hows this for some housemade psychology LOL

Edited August 10, 2011 by Pilotasso

[Total]

40 yrs old and going on 18 years of marriage. Went through the video game fights myself.

 

Secret #1: No kids.

 

We decided early on we didn't want children. We're too selfish. We'd rather spend our hard earned cash on us rather than our child become some spoiled ingrate after they hit school and demand everything just because they think they are entitled to it. We also both believe positive reinforcement and "Time Out" is a load of crap, so we'd probably both go to prison for spanking a child. So, I got a vasectomy.

 

Secret #2: Compromise.

 

In 1998, I was spending long hours playing Unreal, but still balanced life with gaming.

 

That balance came to an end in 2001 when Tribes 2 was released. I was playing, generally, from the moment I got home until I went to bed long after she did. I was even taking of early from work to prep for matches.

 

Just when I though I couldn't get worse, I got involved in invite league matches in TWL and CAL playing America's Army. Gaming had become a second job at that point since I was the website admin and server admin for the clan.

 

It came to head. A really, really heated pinnacle.

 

Notes on the monitor, fights, arguments, etc Yep. It was all there.

 

I really had no defense. She was, of course, very right. I was not playing games every free moment when we got married. Had I have been doing that, she wouldn't have married me.

 

I fought back only because I felt she was being unjust by making me feel bad for doing something I liked.

 

When I explained that I had realized both sides of the argument, we both calmed down. She knew we were both right as well. This was a great step cuz now neither of us were the enemy. I still wanted to game and she wanted me to have fun, but she wanted to feel like she wasn't wasting her time with me cuz we really didn't spend any together by doing anything.

 

All of my years of telling her to get a hobby of her own was downright insulting to her. She had hobbies, but she hadn't lost her sense of balance when it came to the marriage. That was where I had failed by letting my gaming addiction rule me.

 

Result: We laugh, flirt, and have killer sex again

 

I still game nightly, but I don't start gaming as soon as I get home. We're doing things together and we're enjoying it. She didn't want all of my time, just some of it. I was in the process of trading her for my friends online though. One thing that helped us both was a LAN party in 2004 where she got to meet several of them. Well, more like spending Labor day weekend getting plastered with the guys and their wives/girlfriends lol. We got to put faces to nicknames and "online friends" became lifelong real friends.

 

I made a commitment to my wife before I made any commitments to anyone online. I had forgotten that and that was my fault for not keeping my word.

 

In the end, we both met in the middle. By that point, I realized just how much time and effort I was putting into the games and how withdrawn from my RL friends I had become. I left the America's Army clan as I just really didn't feel like having my time dictated by the needs of video game addicts anymore. It was relieving not to have to excuse myself from a dinner date to walk someone through which set of league scripts to use to get the server ready for a match that I already felt guilty for not being part of.

 

She just bought me a CH Products Fighterstick and Pro Throttle due to Old Faithful (my X52) dying after 8 years of abuse. Not too long ago, she bought me the Thrustmaster MFD's. Not only that, she searched through alot of vendors until she found one that had them on sale. She got them for under $40...and that was with shipping included! She was also the one who bought me a Matrox Triplehead2go and three LCD monitors.

 

She's my best friend afterall and that's what best friends do. And to think I was trading that friendship to play a game.

 

Either compromise, get a divorce, or be in for a very long and unhappy marriage. That's your choices. Telling your wife or girlfriend to basically deal with it is a selfish cheap shot.

Edited August 10, 2011 by Total

[Cali]

I use to sim about 20-30 hours a week it seemed like. That was in my younger days, now I do about 10 hours a week. Having kids does take a big chunk of your time, but I wouldn't change that for anything in the world. There is nothing like having your 2 1/2 year old walking in the room saying "you wake daddy" and giving you a hug and kiss. You just have to find the balance between the 2. Make sure your wife is getting the things she needs in life and you'll get what you need.

[Scarecrow]

 

She's my best friend afterall and that's what best friends do. And to think I was trading that friendship to play a game.

 

Either compromise, get a divorce, or be in for a very long and unhappy marriage. That's your choices. Telling your wife or girlfriend to basically deal with it is a selfish cheap shot.

 

Quoted for truth. These are very wise words sir:thumbup:

[TulsA-10]

Thank you guys for the wise words of wisdom. I compromise with her all the time. I come home from work and eat with her and the kido.. Talk and hang out.. Put the boy down and go to bed with her. I'm not up late after she goes to bed. I only game Saturday night after the boy is asleep. I have got to have me time especially after being around and dealing with people all day.

 

She is the type that wants 100% of your time and that is not going to happen. So I'm pulling my weight.. you can say at least I'm at home on saturday night and not out.. I don't even hang out with buddies anymore. I work, eat, sleep, take care of our boy, provide everything so she does not have to work and all I want is some peace to unwind one bloody night, and I am ok with that being my life. I'm out to pasture here.. Just let me graze in one particular corner of the field.

 

Blah.. Blah.. Blah call Oprah right..lol I just find it funny as a guy you find yourself always giving something up for the woman, and what do they put aside? Good question

Edited August 11, 2011 by TulsA-10

[TulsA-10]

Guess i am the lucky one then here. All my GFs wanted to grab my Stick with "can i try that too?" :D

 

Lol.. Those are goodtimes my friend.. Don't waste'm

[EtherealN]

I have got to have me time especially after being around and dealing with people all day.

 

She is the type that wants 100% of your time [...] provide everything so she does not have to work

 

Well, looks like you've got opposite situations, IMO. You deal with people all day through work etcetera, she's at home, and... then it's strange that she has social desires that don't fit with yours? ;)

 

IMO, the solution is to make sure both of you are tired of dealing with people. Then she'll be happy you're at your desk gaming so she can get some peace. :D

[ChrisIhao]

Well, looks like you've got opposite situations, IMO. You deal with people all day through work etcetera, she's at home, and... then it's strange that she has social desires that don't fit with yours?

 

Thats a very good point you got right there. I work in mental health care and usually deal with people all day long. When i get home I sometimes nearly want to hold my ears and say "na na na na na" when she starts talking, not because I'm not fond of her but because I generally am so sick of hearing people talking. The worst part about it is that I not seldom feel this way when she has been waiting and were looking forward to me getting home. This has been a source of some bad consciense throughout the later years. :music_whistling:

 

Then again she fortunately understands this, and if I'm honest straight away and explain I need some time alone she's usually understanding. She does have work and other stuff to do during most days so its not like she's at home alone all day long though.

 

Regards,

 

Male support group member #42

Edited August 11, 2011 by ChrisIhao

[TulsA-10]

Thats a very good point you got right there. I work in mental health care and usually deal with people all day long. When i get home I sometimes nearly want to hold my ears and say "na na na na na" when she starts talking, not because I'm not fond of her but because I generally am so sick of hearing people talking. The worst part about it is that I not seldom feel this way when she has been waiting and were looking forward to me getting home. This has been a source of some bad consciense throughout the later years. :music_whistling:

 

Then again she fortunately understands this, and if I'm honest straight away and explain I need some time alone she's usually understanding. She does have work and other stuff to do during most days so its not like she's at home alone all day long though.

 

Regards,

 

Male support group member #42

 

 

Good point.. I guess i was so far up my own a$$ to see it..lol Listening to people talking constanly makes you wanna shove ice picks in your ears. Althogh she should understand this since she was a hair stylist for years.. I know what your thinking.. "A hair stylist? Theres your problem right there"..lol

 

Hmmm.. so i will got home later and reiterate the lets play the quit game with her and see if it takes.. Thanks guys.

[Headspace]

She is the type that wants 100% of your time and that is not going to happen. So I'm pulling my weight.. you can say at least I'm at home on saturday night and not out..[].. provide everything so she does not have to work

[/QUOTe]

That's really, IMO, not acceptable in this economy. I don't think I could take a spouse seriously (or roommate, or anyone) who did not provide their fair share of economic support to the household. There's no room for dead weight. The idea that this person is attempting to dictate how you use your time is particularly egregious in light of that.

 

Sorry man. I really don't mean to come off harsh but if I were in your situation I'd feel like I had two kids, not just one.

Edited August 11, 2011 by Headspace

[TulsA-10]

That's really, IMO, not acceptable in this economy. I don't think I could take a spouse seriously (or roommate, or anyone) who did not provide their fair share of economic support to the household. There's no room for dead weight. The idea that this person is attempting to dictate how you use your time is particularly egregious in light of that.

 

Sorry man. I really don't mean to come off harsh but if I were in your situation I'd feel like I had two kids, not just one.

 

Thank you brother.. That's just what it's like.. Two kids. I have tried to explain from a guys point of view but we all know how that turns out..lol

 

Since i can't lay a finger on her, granted im not saying i would pound my wife the wrong way. I think i need to hire a female ex dead weight lifter from bulgaria and keep her posted up outside my simquarters and if i see the hall way light turn on i snap my fingers and helga goes to work..lol :bash:

 

Edit: Her staying home was my idea.. I want to keep the boy out of daycare if we can help it, they pick up new bad words and get sick everyother day so i don't mind bustin my sack keeping him at home with his mother.. just some down time alone is all.

Edited August 11, 2011 by TulsA-10

[CyBerkut]

Edit: Her staying home was my idea.. I want to keep the boy out of daycare if we can help it, they pick up new bad words and get sick everyother day so i don't mind bustin my sack keeping him at home with his mother.. just some down time alone is all.

 

Well, you see now she's working after all... she's just not doing it off premises and bringing home a check. If you are not already regularly portraying an understanding and appreciation of that, I'd suggest you start ASAP.

 

Keep in mind, that while you deal with numerous people at work during your day, she may be dealing mostly with one immature person at her 'work'. Both of those situations can take a toll on a person... just in different ways. She may be unwittingly seeking to get you to fill the gap (of adult conversation, etc.) that was created by her switching to staying home. If you think that may be the case, you may find it beneficial to help her see it. By the way, the better way to get there is by asking thoughtful questions, listening carefully to the answers, and working through it with kindness. If you just jump to a conclusion and then proceed to tell her what you think her problem is, it probably will not be well received, (and you might even be wrong).

 

It does sound like she is being too demanding in regards to your day off, but it also sounds like you may be pushing back too hard (which is a pretty normal reaction). Perhaps you can find a way to negotiate some middle ground where you offer to go do something for part of the day, but that the other part of the day is your time to retire to your man-cave. [seek to have that conversation at a time when neither one of you is aggravated with the other one].

 

Regarding somebody's earlier idea of suggesting that she go to the gymnasium... That could be a landmine that you don't want to step on! :music_whistling:

 

And if you do manage to do the washing machine ride... DO NOT under any circumstances hold your arms out and make airplane noises :pilotfly: [At least not until the end, any ways...]

 

Lastly, you are entitled to have some time to yourself if that is what you need. Conversely, it behooves you to figure out what she needs (which is not necessarily what she says that she wants) and help ensure that she gets it. Look for the win-win.

[TulsA-10]

Well, you see now she's working after all... she's just not doing it off premises and bringing home a check. If you are not already regularly portraying an understanding and appreciate of that, I'd suggest you start ASAP.

 

Keep in mind, that while you deal with numerous people at work during your day, she may be dealing mostly with one immature person at her 'work'. Both of those situations can take a toll on a person... just in different ways. She may be unwittingly seeking to get you to fill the gap (of adult conversation, etc.) that was created by her switching to staying home. If you think that may be the case, you may find it beneficial to help her see it. By the way, the better way to get there is by asking thoughtful questions, listening carefully to the answers, and working through it with kindness. If you just jump to a conclusion and then proceed to tell her what you think her problem is, it probably will not be well received, (and you might even be wrong).

 

It does sound like she is being too demanding in regards to your day off, but it also sounds like you may be pushing back too hard (which is a pretty normal reaction). Perhaps you can find a way to negotiate some middle ground where you offer to go do something for part of the day, but that the other part of the day is your time to retire to your man-cave. [seek to have that conversation at a time when neither one of you is aggravated with the other one].

 

Regarding somebody's earlier idea of suggesting that she go to the gymnasium... That could be a landmine that you don't want to step on! :music_whistling:

 

And if you do manage to do the washing machine ride... DO NOT under any circumstances hold your arms out and make airplane noises :pilotfly: [At least not until the end, any ways...]

 

Lastly, you are entitled to have some time to yourself if that is what you need. Conversely, it behooves you to figure out what she needs (which is not necessarily what she says that she wants) and help ensure that she gets it. Look for the win-win.

 

I tell her i appreciate everything she does and notice all the changes around the house and all that all the time so she knows i pay attention. Like i said.. I only fly saturday night after the boy is in bed and she goes to bed which is the only night i don't got to bed with her.. on sunday i'm all her's and the boys.. I use to fly two nights a week and she cried about that too so i cut it down to one night.. I think this whole thing is my fault.. "As if it could be any different" due to spoiling her a few years back.. so i created a monster only problem is i can't spank her.. wait a sec.. oh yes i can..lol

 

"Regarding somebody's earlier idea of suggesting that she go to the gymnasium... That could be a landmine that you don't want to step on!" .. I can tell you it would be a double landmine.. with a side order of DU rounds you know where.

Edited August 11, 2011 by TulsA-10

[Headspace]

Well, you see now she's working after all... she's just not doing it off premises and bringing home a check. If you are not already regularly portraying an understanding and appreciation of that, I'd suggest you start ASAP.

Well, you're free to amicably disagree, however I don't buy the idea that being a stay at home parent to one child (and I say this as a parent--the one who always worked full time) takes anywhere near the level of effort that having a career does. I see that as a cultural myth. Staying home with your kid(s) is a privilege and it seems to me the dude's wife needs to respect his spare time because she has that privilege thanks to his hard work.

 

Of course, that's as far as I'll take it since I don't want to turn the discussion into a debate. It's important that everyone get their needs met but it's equally important that people have realistic and non-selfish expectations of their spouses.

[TulsA-10]

Well, you're free to amicably disagree, however I don't buy the idea that being a stay at home parent to one child (and I say this as a parent--the one who always worked full time) takes anywhere near the level of effort that having a career does. I see that as a cultural myth. Staying home with your kid(s) is a privilege and it seems to me the dude's wife needs to respect his spare time because she has that privilege thanks to his hard work.

 

Of course, that's as far as I'll take it since I don't want to turn the discussion into a debate. It's important that everyone get their needs met but it's equally important that people have realistic and non-selfish expectations of their spouses.

 

Nailed that one on the head sir.. a man after my own brain! You could not be more right about taking the stay at home i do everything and your working life is crap compared to mine BS.. I know it's hard and gets old.. She goes and runs errands and eats lunch with girlfriends and blah blah blah.. so it's not like she is chained to the washing machine like woman like to make out..

 

The thing i think is the real root of the problem is that im not trainable and won't let her get a mind grip on my tackle.. so she goes crazy in a bad way.. I do what i want when it come to my sim and thats just the way it is. I take care of everything financially and all the big decisions.. i even do all the bills and put money in the savings account so.. I tell her i don't wanna hear it.. I know it sounds like i talk to her as a child, but sometimes you have to.. I also told that i think she has a non realistic view on relationships.. "too much tv" it basicly comes down to after awhile is.. how much you can put up with.. and what's for dinner..lol

Edited August 11, 2011 by TulsA-10

[ChrisIhao]

Hey Tulsa-10. I think we have a bit different cultures when it comes to women staying at home etc, as here in Norway basically everybody works or take education in adult life, also women. Personally I'm proud to be living with a woman which does something that is meaningful to her, in her case taking a more correct education at adult age (with the exception of a few B's she has gotten straight A's in rather complex biology courses and other nature sciences). Actually I think, while somewhat comfortable, that women who stay at home sometimes develop a lack of self esteem to some extent as they really only do stuff that "everybody" could do and lack an "expertise". This in turn could create some frustration, outbursts and need for control, although it usually doesnt show on the person. Now, remember I'm talking generally and not specifically about you guys, so correct me if I'm wrong.

 

Regarding the kid, while you're spot on in terms of the kid getting sick and whatnot I believe that kids in kindergarten could benefit from having to adjust to a lot of other kids and that they learn to communicate and relate to each other. Then again, if I had a kid I would probably also want to spend as much time as possible with it while it was small (in other words, while it still looked up to me. hehe).

 

Anyways, hope you dont take offence. Just airing some thoughts here, and like stated it comes very much down to differences in culture.

Edited August 12, 2011 by ChrisIhao

[TulsA-10]

Anyways, hope you dont take offence. Just airing some thoughts here, and like stated it comes very much down to differences in culture.

 

Not at all..

 

I spend as much time with him as possible.. He's 15 months and he walks around saying vrum vrum and throttling with his hand like he does on my motorcycle. He says plane and flies his jet around the room.. I'm teaching him everything i know like my dad did with me.. that's how i turned out to be a self sufficient do just about anything guy.. Kids are great..

 

I'm taking him to his first airshow he can attend in a couple months.. he's gonna love it.. infact he was born on the day of the airshow here tulsa.. He was so excited to go he just came on out..lol

 

American woman tend to develop a develop a sense of entitlement and men are here just for them.. In oklahoma alot of woman are lazy and huge.. as there is nothing to do here so all the woman weigh 100lbs + more than the men.. The men are working outside bustin there butts to make a living and stay fit for the most part.

Edited August 12, 2011 by TulsA-10

[CyBerkut]

Tulsa, it sounds like you did your part. Once you've bent to a certain point, you have to draw the line and say, "No further".

 

I dunno. Maybe you need to push back a bit more to get her to realize how good she has/had it. Perhaps fly 2 nights a week again for awhile, until she figures out she should put a sock in it.

 

I guess I got lucky, and did a few things right back at the beginning with my wife. It sounds like your 'untrainability' is very similar to how I dealt with certain things she tried. Once she discovered that crap wasn't going to work, we settled into a pretty good relationship.

 

I feel for ya'. Good luck with it...

[Cali]

Not at all..

 

I spend as much time with him as possible.. He's 15 months and he walks around saying vrum vrum and throttling with his hand like he does on my motorcycle. He says plane and flies his jet around the room.. I'm teaching him everything i know like my dad did with me.. that's how i turned out to be a self sufficient do just about anything guy.. Kids are great..

 

I'm taking him to his first airshow he can attend in a couple months.. he's gonna love it.. infact he was born on the day of the airshow here tulsa.. He was so excited to go he just came on out..lol

 

American woman tend to develop a develop a sense of entitlement and men are here just for them.. In oklahoma alot of woman are lazy and huge.. as there is nothing to do here so all the woman weigh 100lbs + more than the men.. The men are working outside bustin there butts to make a living and stay fit for the most part.

 

 

Lots of big'ins here in Louisiana also, Phoenix was really nice :). I'm glad my wife has been a Personal trainer, Aerobics instructor, Zumba instructor for the past 10 years. She likes being in shape and is going back to school to be a Physical therapist.