A lot of people need to get out of the house and do other things. It gets bad when updates and things are coming out.....some people sit in front of their computer pressing F5 all day long. I get that flying formation with another jet isn't the easiest thing to do, but it's not that hard either....it just takes some practice. I also get that flying computer sims most people want it to be easy because they either don't want to take the time to learn it or they don't have the time to learn it. That's why things are dumbed down.
Go online and see how people fly. I know a few years back people didn't care if they lived or died, they would still press on you even if they had 2-3 missiles coming at them. I haven't flown much in the last 18 months, but I can still a2a refuel, but I have been flying for years. Another thing is how many online missions have a2a refueling or even need it?