I'm assuming you're using Open Beta and hopefully today's patch fixes your issues.
However, prior to today (still at work, haven't updated) in OB 2.5.6 with an HP Reverb (plus i7 9700k, 2080ti), I did not suffer items 1, 2, or notice 3. I was able to autonomously lase for GBU-12s and 16s, using my TPOD on STA4 and 5.