Except that it is crucial to use proper terms when discussing anything aircraft related. It's far too easy to mix something up and make mistakes. From where I'm sitting it looks like it was polite and you're coming off as defensive and rude.
As for the OP, here's my 2 cents. Don't focus too hard on tactics. Learn how to use the radar and RWR. Don't fly in a straight line towards an enemy, stay at an angle like some others have said. Pulse your radar just long enough to build some situational awareness so that you don't give off your position to your enemy's RWR. Use the mountains to your advantage. They can be great for ambushing an enemy. Just fly and watch others and the rest will come. Don't worry about getting shot down, every does.