Spouses and sim addiction

[Bedouin]

Well if you're both getting a paycheck, then I really don't see why the wife should have any say in what you spend yours on. Except legally she can. Most states are 50/50.

 

Having been there, done that, my advice for the younger guys who are still single is to STAY SINGLE. Date all you want. Unless you are dying to have kids of your own, there is literally zero benefit to marriage (for the guy) that you can't get from dating, but a whole lot of potential downside. Once you are married and kids are involved, you lose your veto authority in your life. She could be working when you get married. Doesn't mean she'll stay employed. This is the sad reality today. I got off lucky.

 

Leasing is often a financially superior option for the use of depreciating assets. ;)

 

Your value increases with age. Invest in yourself!

 

With leasing you are of course referring to leasing a wife, right :smilewink:

[xaoslaad]

i think it all comes down on weather you have a healthy relation with your wife. I spent 20k in gaming gear the last two months and the only thing she told me was "go ahead, you dont have to ask me". Of course I bought a couple of things for herin order to be fair, but single life is good only if your wife sucks half of your life or more.

 

 

Bye bye.

 

You can never presict what will happen and how people whoch changevafter a decade or two.

Edited January 1, 2016 by xaoslaad

[xaoslaad]

Should have fought for the throttle, you can buy an individual stick.

[SparxOne]

Been with a girl for 4 years, loved her to death, seemed the same from her throughout, we got together that I already had my hardware and gaming addiction, she lived with it and came in my life knowing I was very pationate about gaming !

 

Beginning of 2015 she left me with no clear explanation of why she had left me, with time I am starting to think that my gaming addiction was a big part of her decision but won't ever be able to confirm that ! Needless to say, I was really not expecting her to suddenly leave me like that since she had never really given me headaches about my gaming habits ! I was totally broken from the break up, still miss her nowadays but I got used to the fact of being single again I guess...

 

Financially talking, I used to spoil her brat and she would literally never pay a thing when with me, can't say she felt left out. She sometimes used to sit on my lap while I was gaming and fall asleep on me, she enjoyed watching me at those moments otherwise she would just occupy herself doing work for school or simply doing things on her own computer or watch TV.

 

What have I learned from that story ? Gaming can in some sort ruin a relationship if not spent wisely, and love hearts like **** ! Don't fall in love !

 

This is my story

[cichlidfan]

Get a dog! ;)

[SkateZilla]

I just throw her FarmVille Addiction in the equation and it balances out.

 

My girl has known since day 1, over 10 years ago that Im a gamer...

[SDsc0rch]

the word "addiction" keeps coming up

 

do you SERIOUSLY think this is an.......... addiction??

 

 

addiction has a specific definition

 

and, if its real, shouldn't be taken lightly - it should be treated like an illness or disease

 

 

but i hardly think people are addicted to VIDEO GAMES --- maybe they make poor choices

 

maybe not even "poor choices" per se, maybe wives/GFs/whatever have either changed or moved on or found someone else ----- and you simply weren't a match any more (hey, if she was neglecting me, i'd be out the door too!)

 

but just because someone leaves you, doesn't mean you're "addicted" ---- heck, ppl call it quits for lots of reasons - and those aren't "addictions"

[slowhand]

LOL Been there, done that,got Tee shirt out of the deal ,Been married 35 yrs and to the same woman:megalol:You drop 366 bucks on peds? Drop 165/200 for a great night out with her:music_whistling::thumbup::smartass: and I think the word is Your Golden!!:D

[AMEDooley]

the word "addiction" keeps coming up

 

do you SERIOUSLY think this is an.......... addiction??

 

 

addiction has a specific definition

 

and, if its real, shouldn't be taken lightly - it should be treated like an illness or disease

 

 

but i hardly think people are addicted to VIDEO GAMES --- maybe they make poor choices

 

maybe not even "poor choices" per se, maybe wives/GFs/whatever have either changed or moved on or found someone else ----- and you simply weren't a match any more (hey, if she was neglecting me, i'd be out the door too!)

 

but just because someone leaves you, doesn't mean you're "addicted" ---- heck, ppl call it quits for lots of reasons - and those aren't "addictions"

 

Yes video games can be an addiction. The moment it affects your job, relationships, and you cannot quit, then it is an addiction that you need to seek treatment for. Now I would say that video games for an addiction, while can do the same damage as a substance addiction, is often less harmful than other type of addictions.

[SDsc0rch]

exactly, if you're at that point, that is what i call a "problem"

 

and shrinks etc probably call that an "addiction"

 

that person needs help

 

 

i'm just wondering if what i'm seeing here rises to the level of "addiction"

[AMEDooley]

Yes it is. It's just not moved into one that requires treatment. I would think of addictions, this would be pretty harmless. But it still is an addiction.

[TomOnSteam]

so how's the starving going? lol

 

BTW I've recently been reading about addictions. What happens with the chemicals in the brain, and stages you go through.

 

The short of is: 3 weeks cold turkey and you can kick anything(including hard drugs like heroin). (although some things like alcohol require medical treatment too otherwise you can die, but most things don't).

 

 

After 3 weeks the chemical bond in your brain is broken. You are no longer physically addicted, and you just have to be conscious about it because while the cravings and excuses and desires will be gone, the ritual or habit of things will still be there, but it won't be urging you. So you still need to change your habit so you don't put yourself into a situation where you might restart the chemical addiction. But I guess if you've managed to go 3 weeks without caving into your addiction, you've probably changed your lifestyle or timetable to avoid that activity anyway.

 

This is why nicotine patches have a low success rate. The brain will remain addicted to nicotine, since you're still feeding the strongest part of the addiction with the patches.

 

Also, while 3 weeks isn't a long time, the 3rd week will seem to take forever and up until the point of complete release from the addiction your brain and body will be doing anything and everything to make you cave into your addiction. It is very difficult, but you keep counting down, one day at a time, and all of sudden. Nothing.

 

I did this with something pretty tame, that being chocolate and cheese.(although it is said that these are the two hardest foods to quit due to the casomorphins in them from the dairy, which have a mild opioid effect. And while it's effect is quite mild compared to hard drugs, I bet even now if I told you a valid health reason not to eat cheese, you would already be making excuses not to stop eating it, I did, but that is the addiction weaving it's magic spell. It's not you making the excuse, it's the addiction, and I know this because I did it too, I made those same excuses, but then after the addiction is broken, the excuses no longer apply, often being illogical and trivial). For example I know someone that has rheumatoid arthritis, caused by very specifically the dairy proteins. It causes immense pain, and if not treated it causes disfigurement. The simply solution here would be to stop eating milk and cheese, and other things with milk powder in them. But of course this person would rather take life shortening toxic chemicals which have side effects only slightly better than the disease, and they only treat the symptoms, they will never cure the disease it self. This is the power of addiction at work. People would almost rather die than give up what seems to be a fairly innocuous group of food.

 

 

I used to walk past the chocolate in the supermarket, and just by looking at the packets I could visualise the smells and flavours each different brand and mixture of each chocolate. I was already happy knowing what would come next. I could not wait to get home and let it melt in my mouth, the relaxation and pleasure it brought me was exactly like having a beer or a cigarette after a hard days work. (funnily enough just like a drug addict, eventually a few pieces weren't enough, I'd soon be eating 1/2 a block to satisfy me, and when that was not enough I'd buy stronger chocolate, going all of the way up to 90% cacao to get that hit of pleasure my brain craved).

 

But after reading about the 3 week process, knowing that as the urge to eat chocolate was stronger, it meant that I was a day closer to becoming free of the addiction. Knowing that an end is coming really helps, despite everything in your being telling you to give in, just to have a little piece, and we'll make up for it later.... Stay strong!

 

Now when I go past the chocolates in the supermarket all I see and visualise is the paper wrapping them up, not even the slight want for the flavour or aroma. It simply does not interest me, I could be looking at handbags or lumps of coal haha. What actually surprised me the most was that my taste buds or palette has completely changed. Things that I didn't previously consider sweet, such as tomato sauce, taste very sugary to me

 

 

Also if you are suffering from an addiction, cure it with someone suffering from the same thing, work on it as a team and keep each other strong! IMPORTANTLY if you fail, try again immediately, don't wait for a significant date like new years resolutions. Making retrying this challange your habit, like anything with practice you will get better at it, and hopefully you won't fall for the tricks that you're has up it's sleeve again, since you'll know what to look out for.

 

Of course if you're addiction is DCS I have a hard time believing it would impact negatively on your life(but of course I might just be an addict making an excuse hahah). Financially possibly, if you spent a lot of money on constantly getting the most realistic rig and cockpit. But even then you are probably learning now to use tools or even some programming etc. As long as your loved ones aren't missing you, than I believe it's a fairly harmless addiction.

Edited January 1, 2016 by TomOnSteam