manual wings to 25-30 for easy power pickup, trim trim trim prior to approaching the basket and I would just dart to the basket. If I miss, back out and dart again, dart meaning like coming in with some speed but on the phase(decelerating) of slowing down just so catch or not I'll be slowing down just past the basket. I do that so my approach does not need adjusting power as it throws the jet up or down depending on the aoa and amount of power applied.
also at this point I would be looking at the basket. then the tanker when connected